Publicado por: Nikki | julho 6, 2009

Winners, Non-losers and losers

===Winners, Non-losers and Losers===

People always influence the place where they live, be it at work, at the club or at home. What changes from person to person is the kind of influence: a winner will transform his place in a productive place for his objectives, even if it annoys or troubles other people who doesn’t have the same ideas, or the same vision as the winner. A loser will be more worried in harm the place and belittle the others, trying to pull them all to his level.

A great point to notice a winner, a non-loser, or a loser are what they say when they make a mistake.

A winner will admit his mistake and work on it so it won’t happen the next time. So his words usually are: “I know I made a mistake, but that won’t repeat” or “Now I know how to make this work.”

A non-loser worries about not losing. He’ll say that, although he made a mistake, there was something to compensate for that. “It wasn’t my intention…”, “At least I’ve done that…”

A loser won’t admit his mistake or his defeat, and will point the circunstances(sp?) or anything external to him as the fault. “If I had done that…”, “I should’ve done that…”, “I didn’t care about that anyways…”

So, a winner isn’t that person who never misses, but the one who will learn from his own mistakes. He can make mistakes, but it’ll work so it that won’t be repeated. He won’t give up on his primary objectives or authentic desires, trying to reach them by any means he considers possible. A winner doesn’t “waste time” explaining his faults or mistakes, or even exposing them to other people. His worries lies in eliminate that mistake on the next time.

The non-loser, worried about not losing, will be satisfied when he makes something positive. So, even if he makes a mistake, he can excuse himself saying he did something right before, or saying his mistake wasn’t that bad. His objectives mainly focus on “stability”, and he can even hide his authentic desires so he can be “stable”. But this “stability” is nothing more than “accomodation”. But he’s not a bad or a lazy person, since he can do his work perfectly, as lng as he feels confident about it.

The loser will never admit his defeats, and in his vision, he’s a “perfect being”. So, his mistakes aren’t really his fault, but something external to him. He’ll justificate by all means, or point other people’s mistakes, so he can feel safe. Transforms (mentally) his troubles and weak points in virtude(sp?) – he doesn’t compete because he’s “above the inhuman competition”, or gives up on something because he convinces himself he “doesn’t need it” or “it’s not important”.
Instead of working for himself, or in a way to improve himself, he’ll be more worried about bringing the other people down so they’ll be in the same level as him. He’ll never recognize other peoples merits (“you just got it because you had this” or “anyone can do what you did”) and, when rejected, he’ll react with anger and jealousy.

===Aplication in fighting games===

How does this defines our part in fighting games? You may already know a good part of it, but there are a lot of small details, that sometimes we won’t notice, but they allow us to identify how a person acts during a tournament, for example.

A winner won’t cry about his defeat to other people, or get frustrated because he lost at the finals. He’ll take responsability for his mistakes, and will use this defeat as his inner strenght to reach his objective later (win the tournament), preparing himself better and looking for his mistakes on the matches. He’s always learning, and will pursuit the victory by any means he judges necessary and possible. There aren’t mental blocks as “too difficult setup” or “waste of time”. His pursuit after his true desires is continuous. He can be a “tier whore”, if that helps him raise his victory chances.

A non-loser will be satisfied if he reaches the semi-finals, or if he wins against an opponent who he considers strong. “I did my best”, “I played well”, “I won against him once”… that’s the non-loser main point. His goal is to not be in last, but not necessarily in first. Sometimes he can even lose on purpose, but unconsciously, so he won’t be the first (not bring attention to himself). Since it’s unconscious, he won’t know why he missed, and may repeat the same mistakes a lot of times until he learns it.

A loser won’t admit defeat. He’s the victim. He’ll blame the controller, the opponent, the “cheap” tactics, the bad match-up, the tier… for him, there are thousands of excuses, except the true fact negated by him: he caused his own defeat. To hide this, he’ll provoke the others who also lost, and won’t recognize the opponent’s victory (“he’s a no lifer”), provoking inner fights and will be jealous. In his vision, he’s a great player, but the circunstances won’t allow him to win (“I had no time to practice”, “I caught a cold”).

He’ll keep remembering his defeats and justifying them (“if I had done that I could’ve won…”, “my move didn’t work”, “I lost because this match-up is too hard…”), instead of trying to find a solution. Since he doesn’t evolve, he prefers to bring other people down to his level, be it with stupid provokes and taunts, hurting (verbally, or even physically), everything with the clear objective of making the other people make a mistake (insult him, hurt him) so he can use that as an argument against the others.

===Action>===

These behaviors aren’t unique on a person, it can change depending on where he is, and what are his actions. These actions rule the change in behavior. Noone is a winner, but stays as a winner. While his actions have an objective and are useful (even a mistake can be useful for the learning), instead of useless/destructive, this person is going to the winner side.

Based on Anna R. Nabergoi text

Special thanks: Teacher Virgílio – Bananére Blog (in portuguese)
Fundação ACL – Auto-realização, Comunicação e Liderança – Site ACL (in portuguese)

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